A message from Residence XII CEO Liz Braun, Ph.D. in honor of Mother’s Day 2019
Recently I had one of the most humbling and moving experiences that I have had during my time at Residence XII: I had the occasion to meet with a mother who had just lost her daughter to the disease of addiction.
This lovely woman’s grief was so palpable and so present, and her ability to talk about her experience so powerful, that it took hold of my heart in a way that I did not expect.
In addition to my empathy for this woman’s loss, I felt gratitude. Gratitude for her wanting to share her experience, and gratitude that through that conversation, I was reminded of the powerful and sacred role we all play in the care and treatment of someone with addiction.
I also felt deep gratitude for this mother’s deep wisdom in knowing that sometimes the disease prevails. When it does, we often reflexively turn to guilt or blame as a way of trying to make sense of the helplessness of that reality. This woman, this mother, knew that such reactions are futile—and she was able to remember, cherish and celebrate the hard-fought sobriety that her daughter had found for a time.
This combination of sadness and gratitude strikes me this Mother’s Day week. As parents, grandparents, or daughters, we all face grief and loss in some form. I think the gratitude comes in the letting go of things we cannot control, and honoring the journey.
May your Mother’s Day be filled with much love and joy.